“I’ll never be as beautiful as she is.” “I wish my abs looked like that.” “Why can’t our apartment look like it came straight out of Pottery Barn like that couple’s does.” “My job is so hard, why can’t I work a job like that where I can travel, lay by the pool, and get paid to live a dream life.”
Sound familiar? How many of you also struggle with that little voice in your head that never seems to leave you alone and let you be happy with your life?
That little voice in yours and my head is the thief named “comparison”. When we wish our lives looked like somebody else’s, allow the “what ifs” to fill our mind, and succumb to the “grass is greener on the other side” mindset, we let comparison rob of us the truth.
This morning, I found myself falling victim to this mentality before I even realized what I was thinking. I so quickly forgot how much I’ve been blessed and found myself wanting more. It took only a matter of seconds to take my eyes off Jesus and place them on worldly things that won’t satisfy me for long.
The reason I share this with you is because I know it is a daily struggle for many, myself included. Humans are constantly looking at others in comparison; either wishing their lives were better or thinking “well at least I’m doing better than him/her”. Both are wrong.
Paul stated in the book of Galatians, “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” -Galatians 1:10 ESV
God made it so clear that we are not on this Earth to make people happy, or even to make ourselves happy, but to live for Him, which will ultimately bring us the most joy. Don’t allow fear of others’ comparisons and judgements cloud who He created you to be.
When I looked up “comparison” in the Bible, I found 40 verses. And there are probably even more than what I found. God KNEW we would struggle with this or else He wouldn’t address it so many times throughout the Bible.
What does God ask us to do regarding comparison?
Turn in the opposite direction and remember who you are living for, not what you are living for. God should be the only one we are living for, anything else of this world will pass away and won’t bring any sort of lasting fulfillment.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world.” -1 Timothy 6:6-7, ESV
Pray for strength to resist comparison because anything we try to do on our own we will not accomplish. It is Christ’s power in us that will bring victory.
Because comparison is a daily struggle, it needs to become a daily battle. Your most powerful weapon is prayer. Each time a thought of comparison sneaks its way into your mind, pray against it, asking the Lord to take captive that thought.
If you tend to compare what you have versus what others have, make a list of all the needs God has met for you and remind yourself that anything else beyond our daily needs will not last in this world and won’t bring you any kind of lasting happiness.
If you compare the way you look with others, write down everything you LOVE about yourself. This especially goes for women. I know this can be difficult because sadly we are so used to bashing ourselves. We are our own worst critic. But God made each and every one of us beautifully, just the way He wanted. When you shame yourself, you are shaming our Creator’s work, who saw what He designed and said “it is good”. Take pride in who God created you to be, but also remember that beauty is fleeting and it’s the heart that truly matters.
“The beauty and delightfulness and favor of the Lord our God is upon us” Psalm 90:17
If you take one thing from this and forget everything else I’ve said, I want you to remember that we are not living for the world, we are living for Jesus. Don’t get caught up in the glamor and glitz of the world, rather get so caught up in Jesus that all the little comforts and desires of the world pass away, and all your left with is a longing to love and serve God and people.
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” -Unknown